The Beginner's Guide To Phone Sex

What are your essentials to have nearby for phone sex? 

It's all about self pleasure for this game. Bring out your favorite toys and make sure they are all charged up. Encourage your male partner to use a Masturbator. This is a shared pleasure experience so make sure your essential toys are ready for you. You can also consider setting the mood. Light some candles, burn some sage. Whatever makes you feel sexy.

What are the differences you need to think about phone vs video sex? 

Phone sex is very much about what you're saying while video is about what you're showing. If you're keeping your playtime audible only, be sure to discuss some ground rules on what's okay and what's not okay to say. Some people may not like being called certain terms and it's important to be respectful of limits when exploring any kind of sexual activity. For video sex, you'll have a lot more to consider as you want to make sure your setting, lighting and angles are most flattering. Consider a stand for your phone and look at your background. Nothing more of a turn off than seeing empty takeout containers or dirty laundry lining a floor when trying to get intimate, so tidy up and be ready to present yourself in the best light. 

How to ask for or approach what you want?

Like with sex, phone and video sex require communication. Discuss what you're looking for ahead of time. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. If you're just looking for someone to listen to you while you come, that's okay to ask for. If you just want a partner to pleasure themselves while you watch, that's okay too. Say what you're interested in and you'll probably get it. 

And any other things you’d recommend?

Make sure your connection is strong. Your emotional one and your wifi. 

Nothing cuts into a mood more than weak internet service.