The Beginner's Guide To Phone Sex

How to ask for or approach what you want?

CK: I tend to just ask for it directly, but if it’s a more out-there desire or fantasy you can ease your way into it or put out a feeler to see if the other person shares your kink first. If it’s a role-playing scenario, give your partner a reference to help them fully embody the role. For example, if you’re into a naughty secretary-boss dynamic – you could watch the movie Secretary (a personal fave) on the phone together and take breaks for some role-play of your own.

SA: Guide your partner by giving them signals to how you want this fantasy interaction to go. If they’re going too fast, you can say something like “You’re making me too hot, slow down a little so I can enjoy this more.” And if you like it rough, or want to roleplay, make the first move to vocalize what you like so your partner can be on the same page. Something like, “I want you to spank me, I’ve been a dirty girl” can be a simple gateway to harder stuff along with sending gifs or or videos that show what you like.

And any other things you’d recommend?

CK: Carpe diem! There’s no better time for phone or FaceTime sex than love in the time of corona. This pandemic is a great excuse to find creative ways of connecting, sexually, romantically, and otherwise.  

SA: Eat before starting and put a glass of water by the bed. If all goes well, you’ll be on the phone a long time. ;)