The Beginner's Guide To Phone Sex

What are your essentials to have nearby for phone sex? 

CK: Depends on your preferences, but you might want to have your favorite sex toy and lube within arm’s reach. It’s also nice to get the lighting right before you get on the phone if it’s a FaceTime date. Knowing that you’re well-lit will make you more confident, as well.

SA: I totally agree with Courtney - and I’d like to add tissues. I also like some Sade or Portishead playing in the background for mood, and candles that smell good, but that’s more of a cherry on top of the phone sex cake. I think a really long charger cord is essential, whether you’re traveling or at home. Nothing worse than your phone dying before you orgasm. 

CK: Sofiya’s spot-on with the charger advice. It’s so easy to forget to charge your phone and that’s the ultimate mood-kill when it comes to phone sex!

What are the differences you need to think about phone vs video sex? 

CK: Obviously the visual element is the biggest difference. That’s kind of the nice thing about phone sex – you don’t have to worry about what you look like or if your O-face is frightening. Of course, FaceTiming adds some extra visual stimulation, but it might also add more prep time to get ready or make you feel overexposed if you don’t know the other person very well. But it’s important to remember that if someone’s into you and the dirty talk is hot, they aren’t going to care what you look like.

SA: The number one difference between phone sex and video sex is that you can lie about what you’re doing and what you look like during phone sex. I do, however, recommend that you actually get all sexed up and gorgeous for the phone call the same way you would for FaceTime, because it will make you feel hot and make the long-distance sex feel more real.